Your new married names – Candice and Jeremy Atkins
Wedding Location – Locust Grove – Poughkeepsie, NY
Ceremony Officiant – Rev Stuart – Friend Officiates Package
DJ/Band – DJ Domenic
Florist – Adams Fairacre Farms – Wappingers Falls, NY
Caterer – Lola’s Cafe
Wedding Decor Rentals: Hudson Valley Ceremonies
Bridal Attire – David’s Bridal
Men’s Attire – JC Penny’s
Rings/Jewelry – Littmans Jewlers
Invitations/Favors – Invitations, WeddingPaperDivas.com; Favors, Gertrude Hawk
– My husband and I looked through so many options when we were first planning and we found that it was really easy to want to be impulsive and to want to go with our first choice but this rarely worked out for us. Our biggest piece of advice would be to take your time and to not just go with your first choice but look around and pick what is right for you.
– Choose vendors based on how they work together. All of our vendors knew each other and worked seamlessly together – we barely had to do anything!!
– Also remember to not stress over the small details and save money where you can. No one knew I had a cheap dress, or that we rented our decorations for a crazy cheap price, or that we assembled our own centerpieces – they had a terrific time because we invested our budget where it counted (food, music, venue) and didn’t no or care about many of the smaller details (but we saved a ton!).
– Enjoy your wedding, it will be over before you know it.
Michael and Vanessa (Voltolina) LaBue
Wedding Location: Tappan Hill Mansion in Tarrytown, NY
Ceremony Officiant: Rev. Kevin Cook
DJ/Band: The Last Nites
Florist: Forever in Bloom
Bridal Attire: Aire Barcelona
Men’s Attire: Calvin Klein
Hair/Makeup: Beauty Entourage
October 1, 2016
Jose & Teresa (Moran)Bosch
BlueField Farm (ask us about the farm, no website)
Restroom Trailer Rental: VIP to go
Our wedding coordinator, Sandra O’connel was so helpful and made our day go super smooth. Since we had a wedding on a site where we had to bring all the vendors in ourselves (food, tent, bathroom trailer, etc) we couldn’t have done it without Sandra. Sandra was there to help every step of the way. Prior to the wedding day, she helped us make sure all the contracts were written correctly, helped us figure out our needs from our tent rental company, the drink needs, and more. Our food caterer didn’t quite have the staff for such a large event so Sandra brought in a staff of 18 people to bartend, pass hors devours, serve dinner, and set up and take down the site. She managed the staff, connected with the vendors, and coordinated the ceremony. She was always attentive to what we wanted and helped to make our vision for our wedding day come true.
A do it yourself wedding is totally possible. You get to have the wedding exactly the way you want it and although there may be more vendors and a couple more choices to make (which glasses do we need, how much beer should we buy, what about drink mixers?) designing your own wedding makes for a wedding that really expresses who you are as a couple.
So You Want Your Friend to Officiate Your Wedding
That is fantastic! There is nothing more personal for a wedding ceremony than a friend or relative that you have known most of life performing your ceremony. Let’s discuss the pros and cons to this gift.
Pros to a Friend or Relative Performing the Ceremony
1. Personal, history, and comfort level. This person knows you both really well and that makes it so easy to create a ceremony together. The know the history of you and your fiance and speak about this in the ceremony. You have a real comfort level with this person and that will make the ceremony easier.
2. Free of charge. Hopefully they are providing this as a gift, but if there are any expenses that they are occurring, etiquette says that you must reimburse them or pay for these items.
Cons to a Friend or Relative Performing the Ceremony
1. Are they legal to perform ceremonies in your state. So they decided to fill out that little form online and maybe even paid $20 to get ordained. Many states, counties and towns will not recognize these forms of ordination.
2. Creating the ceremony. There is an incredible knowledge and ability to an official officiant with the wording of a ceremony. What you are paying for with a professional is the writing talent. A good officiant can write a ceremony that guests want to listen to and are eager for the next part.
3. Crossing the lines. When you hire a professional officiant, they work for you and your fiance. You have the ability to say to them what you want them to wear, what to arrive and what you want them to say and not. Friends and relatives are not professionals (unless if they do this job professionally).
What are your options:
1. Hire a professional to perform your ceremony
2. You decided to have a friend or relative perform the ceremony anyways. Hudson Valley Ceremonies has a solution. The Friend Officiates Package. One of our legal officiants comes to your venue before or after the ceremony and takes care of the legal paperwork. That’s it! So simple.
Any questions please contact Hudson Valley Ceremonies at 845-244-1482 or email at HVCeremonies@gmail.com
Lara & Chris Miller
Wedding Location: Buttermilk Falls Inn & Spa in Milton, NY
Ceremony Officiant: Reverend Stuart
Photographer: Betsi Ewing Studio
Videographer: Betsi Ewing Studio
Limos/Buses: Mahogany Ridge
Florist: Kamilla’s Florist in Millerton NY
Coordinator/Planner: Jeanne Stark
Bridal Attire: Reem Acra
Men’s Attire: Calvin Klein suit, Brooks Brothers shirt and tie
Rings/Jewelry: Ultimate Jewelers in NYC
Hair/Makeup: La Tua Bella
Favors: ASPCA donation
Save the Dates and Rehearsal dinner: Minted
Bridesmaids dresses: Jenny Yoo
Advice from the happy couple:
Not only did I hire my vendors based on their incredible work, I hired them because of the feeling I got after speaking to them. They all had this calming energy about them and after each conversation, I felt more and more at ease with the crazy idea of planning a wedding. I felt confident that they understood my vision and that they would execute it beautifully (which they did). Let your vendors do their job, don’t micromanage them! Show them some ideas so they get your vibe but after that, let them be creative and do their thing!
Also, I’m sure you’ve heard this before but live in the moment. Enjoy the late nights stuffing envelopes and the excited texts of your friends receiving the save the dates. It goes by so quickly, especially your wedding night!! Take a second to look around and really appreciate how many people are there, supporting and loving you as a new couple – its pretty amazing!