So You Want Your Friend to Officiate Your Wedding

So You Want Your Friend to Officiate Your Wedding

Stu

That is fantastic!  There is nothing more personal for a wedding ceremony than a friend or relative that you have known most of life performing your ceremony.  Let’s discuss the pros and cons to this gift.

Pros to a Friend or Relative Performing the Ceremony

1.  Personal, history, and comfort level.  This person knows you both really well and that makes it so easy to create a ceremony together.  The know the history of you and your fiance and speak about this in the ceremony.  You have a real comfort level with this person and that will make the ceremony easier.

2.  Free of charge.  Hopefully they are providing this as a gift, but if there are any expenses that they are occurring, etiquette says that you must reimburse them or pay for these items.

Cons to a Friend or Relative Performing the Ceremony

1.  Are they legal to perform ceremonies in your state.  So they decided to fill out that little form online and maybe even paid $20 to get ordained.  Many states, counties and towns will not recognize these forms of ordination.

2.  Creating the ceremony.  There is an incredible knowledge and ability to an official officiant with the wording of a ceremony.  What you are paying for with a professional is the writing talent.  A good officiant can write a ceremony that guests want to listen to and are eager for the next part.

3.  Crossing the lines.  When you hire a professional officiant, they work for you and your fiance.  You have the ability to say to them what you want them to wear, what to arrive and what you want them to say and not.  Friends and relatives are not professionals (unless if they do this job professionally).

What are your options:

1.  Hire a professional to perform your ceremony

2.  You decided to have a friend or relative perform the ceremony anyways.  Hudson Valley Ceremonies has a solution.  The Friend Officiates Package.  One of our legal officiants comes to your venue before or after the ceremony and takes care of the legal paperwork.  That’s it!  So simple.

Any questions please contact Hudson Valley Ceremonies at 845-244-1482 or email at HVCeremonies@gmail.com

A Hudson Valley Wedding at Buttermilk Falls Inn & Spa

Lara & Chris Miller

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Wedding Location: Buttermilk Falls Inn & Spa in Milton, NY
Ceremony Officiant: Reverend Stuart
Photographer: Betsi Ewing Studio
Videographer: Betsi Ewing Studio
Band: NOTEaBILITY
Limos/Buses: Mahogany Ridge
Florist: Kamilla’s Florist in Millerton NY
Coordinator/Planner: Jeanne Stark
Bridal Attire: Reem Acra
Men’s Attire: Calvin Klein suit, Brooks Brothers shirt and tie
Rings/Jewelry: Ultimate Jewelers in NYC
Hair/Makeup: La Tua Bella
Invitations: Papyrus
Favors: ASPCA donation
Save the Dates and Rehearsal dinner: Minted
Bridesmaids dresses: Jenny Yoo

Advice from the happy couple:

Not only did I hire my vendors based on their incredible work, I hired them because of the feeling I got after speaking to them. They all had this calming energy about them and after each conversation, I felt more and more at ease with the crazy idea of planning a wedding. I felt confident that they understood my vision and that they would execute it beautifully (which they did). Let your vendors do their job, don’t micromanage them! Show them some ideas so they get your vibe but after that, let them be creative and do their thing!

Also, I’m sure you’ve heard this before but live in the moment. Enjoy the late nights stuffing envelopes and the excited texts of your friends receiving the save the dates. It goes by so quickly, especially your wedding night!! Take a second to look around and really appreciate how many people are there, supporting and loving you as a new couple – its pretty amazing!

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9 Key “Green” Planning Concepts

9 Key “Green” planning concepts that can be implemented to make your special day wonderful for you and even better for your environment.

The VENUE
Choose a natural setting like a botanical garden, beach or a beautiful park rather than a huge hall. You can exchange vows in a romantic setting under the stars, or by an amazing ocean scene.

The MENU
Explore booking top culinary chefs that will prepare a delightful, succulent variety of organic foods that will incorporate all aspects of fine green dining, from farm raised entrees, to bio-degradable dinning décor.

The DÉCOR
Speaking of décor not only can you find caterers that incorporate bio-degradable items in their service; you will find that there are also many companies that provide recycled event décor items.

The INVITATION
A great option for invitations for the perfect Green Themed wedding will consist of recycled paper and to take it one step further you can have them printed with biodegradable corn-based ink or an even better and more modern day option is to send a sophisticated and exquisitely designed Electronic Invitations (e-vites).

The GIFTS/FAVORS
Think outside of the box and get creative by giving your guest an Wedding Day Eco-Bag filled with a variety of eco-friendly gifts like luxury Eco-Spa items, Personalized Organic Tea bags, and Elegantly Engraved Mini-Pots with a packet of Plan Seeds to symbolize the seed of love planted on the day of your special union.


The TRANSPORTATION

Every bridal party wants to be transported in luxury and style. With today’s Automotive Companies taking a conscious approach to preserving our environment and producing a large number of fuel efficient Hybrid vehicles, they have made it a point to remember the most important vehicle for a bride and groom, the limousine. Believe it or not there are many companies that provide luxury hybrid limousines as well as luxury cars for the wedding party.

The RINGS
Of all the pieces of jewelry a woman will own in her life, her wedding ring is the most important and holds the most meaning. Consider a jeweler that sells diamonds that are certified conflict-free. You should also consider bands that are created with recycled metals. I suggest you visit Brilliant Earth at http://www.brilliantearth.com; they are the leading provider in conflict-free diamond jewelry. Brilliant Earth also donates dedicates 5% of their profits to local communities that are affected by the diamond industry.

The most important – The DRESS
Choosing that perfectwedding gown is one of the most emotional and most important purchases of woman’s life. Choose a wedding gown that is made from natural fibers as well as your wedding party.


My last recommendation is- The WEDDING COORDINATOR/PLANNER

In order to fully design and plan the perfect reality of your Wedding day Dreams and also incorporate the fundamentals of an environmentally safe wedding, I suggest that you enlist the services of a professional Wedding Coordinator to ensure that your wedding is not just eco-friendly but truly represents the fantasy that you have always dreamed of for your special day.

Wedding Giveaway

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FREE Wedding Photo Booth Backdrop

Many different designs available

or

FREE Personalized Aisle Runner

Many different designs available

Drawing will be on 12/31/2011

Check Out Our Bridal Thanks-Giving

Hudson Valley Ceremonies

presents

Bridal Thanks-Giving

Book any of our officiants or planners between 11/24/11 and 12/1/11

and receive a Very Special Bridal Gift

Choose one of the following gifts:

1 Large Window Cling or 2 Small Window Clings

Personalized Flip Flops

Personalized Acrylic Circle Cake Topper

Contact us today to set up your appointment or to receive your contract.  Then you can choose from any of the three above gifts.

HVCeremonies@gmail.com

Same Sex Wedding Elopement Event

Same Sex Wedding Elopement Event

“Historic, first date ever available to same sex couples in NY”

July 26th, 2011
and
July 27th, 2011

All Day!!

We are going to have multiple locations set up all over the Hudson Valley.

Rhinecliff Waterfront
(Take Amtrak from NYC)

Ashokan Reservoir

New Paltz

Kingston & The Rondout

Beacon Waterfront
(Take Metro North)

$150 for the elopement
(gratuities are appreciated)

If you would like a professional photographer, this can be arrranged.

Contact us at HVCeremonies@gmail.com if you are interested in getting married.  Please let us know which day, time of day and location.

Reservations and Deposit Required

The Following Is Needed To Get Married:

Marriage License – Obtained from any town hall in all of NYS more than 24 hours before the ceremony.

Witnesses – You will need to bring two witnesses

Payment – Check, Cash, Money Order are accepted the day of the ceremony.  Credit Card payments must be made 2 days before the event.

Please join us and visit our booth at the Winter 2011 Bridal and Fashion Show

Please join us and visit our booth at the Winter 2011 Bridal & Fashion Show, sponsored by the Southern Dutchess News Group

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Advertised on HudsonValleyWeddings.com
Hosted at the Dutchess Manor
Sunday, Jan. 30 from 12 Noon – 4 p.m.

Plenty of appetizers and door prizes

Fashion Spectacular, plus demos on exercise, hair & makeup and ballroom dancing

Pre-register now by sending an email to sdnbridalexpo@yahoo.com and receive an article on Bridal Show Tips from hudsonvalleyweddings.com.

Please do not respond to this E-mail to pre-register.