1. Timeline – so many brides either don’t make a timeline for the day of their wedding or they create one that doesn’t work. the number one thing to remember is to put time buffers in your timeline. For example, if it takes 15 minutes to drive to the church give your self 25 minutes. If you really think it is going to take 1 hour for photos and you have 16 people in the wedding party, give yourself 1 1/2 hours. This way when you are over on time, you can say, “it’s ok!”
2. Shoes – wear them, wear them, wear them. Make sure you start one month before the wedding wearing your shoes for 20 minutes at a time 2-3 times per week. Walk outside, inside, on wood floors, carpeting, stairs, etc. Your feet will love you at the end of the night.
3. DIY – Please do some DIY projects, it is what makes a wedding yours and not cookie cutter. But, don’t do each and every DIY project you see online, in a magazine or on tv. Limit yourself, create a list, sit down with some of your girls and figure out, with their opinions, which ones are realistic.
4. Wedding Party – So you have five really close friends, but you have two sisters and your fiance has two sisters. Do you really need to have 9 bridesmaids in your wedding? I big trend these days is to either choose 1 maid of honor or siblings. Keep it simple and keep the costs down, for you and your wedding party. Your five friends will still be at your wedding.
5. Wedding Dresses – Your dress is going to be on your body for about 10 hours, yes 10 hours. For your dress, consider how you are walking in the dress, sitting in the dress and most important dancing in the dress. There needs to be comfort on your wedding day. What about a knee length or tea length dress and shoes that match your attendants color dresses?
6. Attendants Dresses – choose a color that is flattering. But let them choose a dress that is comfortable. So many designers now have created a line of dresses that are very similiar but yet can be suitable for different body types.
7. Guest List – The days of 300 guest weddings is just about over. Chelsea Clinton said it perfectly, “if I don’t know them, they don’t get invited.” There is nothing worse than trying to create a seating chart for people you don’t know. Meeting people for the first time on your wedding day is just not fun. Tone it down and don’t be afraid to tell your parents that this is no longer the 60’s and that the budget just doesn’t have room for the 4th cousins 7 times removed.
8. Hiring Professionals – Please, please take this one to heart. Never, ever hire a friend or family member to work at your wedding. There is a very clear line between a friend or relative and a professional. Do you have a comfort level in telling a friend to get back to work, don’t drink, stop eating? No, well then hire a professional. Let the friends and relatives help with the wedding, but never have them do what a professional can do.
9. Dinner – One important item with dinner is the amount of food and courses. The more courses you include in your dinner the less time you have dancing. Now for some this is fine and is a desirable choice. But if you are spending over $7000 on your band and they only play waltzes or big band because there is another course coming to the table, don’t complain to the band. having more than three courses for the reception is just a waste of food and time. Tone it down, your guests will not starve.
10. Honeymoon – So many couples just can’t wait to go on their honeymoon. I don’t blame you. Crystal clear water, sugar beaches, tropical drinks. But, the last thing you want to do is get up at 4am the morning after your wedding and drive to the airport and fly to 2-8 hours. Take 1-2 days off after the wedding to decompress. Don’t pack before the wedding, do it the next night after the wedding. Sleep in the day after your wedding, relax, hang out with friends and make it a weekend. You will enjoy your honeymoon and your wedding so much more if you just take your time.
For more advice and information about how to make your wedding stress free contact Hudson Valley Ceremonies, 845-266-6076, www.HudsonValleyCeremonies.com
